We live in an age of "politically correct" speech. Everything must be said and done in such a way that no one is offended in any way. But that kind of thinking can drive a wedge between man and God. God is not going to go out of His way to be "politically correct". He is not concerned with our fleshly feelings. God is concerned with higher things. His concern is for our immortal soul.
Paul, under the unction of the Holy Ghost, put in writing God's plan for a godly household. In Ephesians Paul writes, "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore, as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything." (Ephesians 5: 22-24) Now, I realize that in this day of woman leadership this would offend many people, men and women alike. But, believe it or not, God does know what He is doing. God's plan for the family began with Adam. God gave to Adam dominion over everything, then he created woman to be a help meet. Woman was created to be a loving companion for man and a helper for him in all things. But just as Jesus is head of the church, the husband is the head of the family. Does that mean that the husband is supposed to rule the house with an iron hand? Exactly how does Jesus handle being the head of the church? How does He treat the church?
Paul give a clear description of Jesus as head of the church, and the role of man as head of the house. "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it; that He might sanctify it and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word. That He might present it to himself a glorious church not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loves his wife, loves himself. For no man ever hated his own flesh but nourished it and cherished it, even as the Lord the church."(Ephesians 5:25-29) Did you get that? Husbands are supposed to love their wives and cherish them. Husbands are supposed to give themselves for her. No where does Paul write that the wife is supposed to give her life for her husband. But he does write that the husband is supposed to give his life for his wife.
Nobody is going to walk into a marriage and do everything right. We are human and as such are subject to human frailties. Sometimes we forget things, or say things in anger that we really don't mean. I guess the bottom line is that both the man and the wife should lift up one another, pray for one another, but most of all love one another. After all, love covers a multitude of sins. I realize that this is not "politically correct" but it is "Biblically correct".
